tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post3848924336729160236..comments2024-02-10T17:29:10.269+05:30Comments on Raji's Ramblings: RING THAT BELL!RAJI MUTHUKRISHNANhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09767924355822361427noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-4629129232165441942009-02-24T21:04:00.000+05:302009-02-24T21:04:00.000+05:30Hey Raji,I remember we - a small group of us in a ...Hey Raji,<BR/><BR/>I remember we - a small group of us in a friend's flat - were alarmed at the domestic abuse screams at a neighbouring flat. I am so proud that we all - the entire group of ?7-8 of us - rang the doorbell.<BR/><BR/>The woman's screams stopped; the man came to the door and looked very "decent" and neighbourly. We couldn't enter the flat.<BR/><BR/>No more screams that day, but I hear there were screams later on...<BR/><BR/>And yes, this was educated middle class blah blah blah<BR/>============<BR/><BR/>I do this: when I see a husband shouting at his wife ( upper class living rooms) and ordering her to shut up as HE wants ME to hear his pea-brained speeches, I <BR/><BR/>Leave the room.<BR/><BR/>The man is often stunned and starts hating ( yes, hating) me from then on but there is a limit to my patience. I cannot stand to see the verbal abuse...and I'm talking sophisticated households here.<BR/><BR/>Makes for a lonelier life for me - less homes to go to! - but I prefer my company to these sad little male ******Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-65001857014032645332009-02-11T03:03:00.000+05:302009-02-11T03:03:00.000+05:30This is a burning issue and it is shameful for the...This is a burning issue and it is shameful for the society to leave this social evil unattended. Illiteracy, excessive drinking, dowry, poverty have all contributed to this evil.<BR/>I had once come across a shocking report conducted in my University. A survey conducted among the employees( from the highest paid to the lowest)reveals that more than 60% of the women have been victims of domestic violence.Historyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10162185386446314356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-33325468688640794742009-02-03T18:41:00.000+05:302009-02-03T18:41:00.000+05:30Raji, you have been brave and have taken an effort...Raji, you have been brave and have taken an effort. I salute you.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00469394323819969371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-91688061863140713622009-01-29T22:08:00.000+05:302009-01-29T22:08:00.000+05:30Anonymous, thank you for the insightful comments. ...Anonymous, thank you for the insightful comments. You are so right - we are helpless. But atleast we can make these small efforts, and maybe some decades later, there will be a kind of awakening. <BR/><BR/>I have stepped in twice when I have heard the wife screaming in agony at the abuse at her husband's hands.(And this was not some poor family, but an educated middle class one) The first time, I was shouted at and asked to mind my own business. It was terrible, but at least it stopped him from hitting her. The second time I called from outside loud and long enough for him to be distracted.<BR/><BR/>But as you say, however much I wanted to, I could not do much more.RAJI MUTHUKRISHNANhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09767924355822361427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-84182276242467488702009-01-29T17:00:00.000+05:302009-01-29T17:00:00.000+05:30Abuse happens at many levels and physical abuse is...Abuse happens at many levels and physical abuse is just its most primitive manifestation. <BR/>While one can feel good about raising awareness and all, what we need to ask ourselves is<BR/>1) Would we stand up and confront the abuser for our mothers, sisters, daughters, daughters-in-law, sisters-in-law and so on? Or would we just turn a blind eye and say nothing so as to not interfere in a domestic/personal/family matter?<BR/>2) It is easy to suggest to the domestic help that they should go to the police station. But if there was a need for a witness, would we be willing to go and be there for the person? If they were thrown out of their homes, would we give them a place to stay even for a few days?<BR/>3)Do we really believe that the police in India will do something about this, especially when the person is a poor domestic worker?<BR/><BR/>We give good advice but that is all -- the words have to change to action to facilitate any improvement in our society/world. We as women must react in a positive way to support the abused women and confront the abuser. Until that happens this is all just talk and amounts to nothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-23250594221407038162009-01-28T21:43:00.000+05:302009-01-28T21:43:00.000+05:30Thanks you all for your supportive messages. This...Thanks you all for your supportive messages. This is one routine in our lives that we can do without.<BR/>Filmmakers too should be discouraged from showing people slapping one another at the drop of a hat.<BR/><BR/>Chandramouli: Yes, I read about Provoked - what a strong woman she became.<BR/><BR/>Swarna, sons must be taught to value women.<BR/><BR/>Flowergirl, Sunita, yes that is why I wanted to share it.<BR/><BR/>Sandra, thanks you . I am hapy to see you here.<BR/><BR/>Joseph "I think illiteracy, excessive drinking, dowry etc. are contributing factors for domestic violence" _ I agree wholeheartedly. But is it practicable to get that certificate? :)<BR/><BR/>Devika, you are the violent one? Domestic violence on the other foot, eh?<BR/><BR/>Soul searcher, what I have done is not enough. Blogs are read by only the literate - the message has to reach the masses, that is why these video campaigns are so essential.RAJI MUTHUKRISHNANhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09767924355822361427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-68233877100843268782009-01-25T22:29:00.000+05:302009-01-25T22:29:00.000+05:30Nice to see someone raising awareness about issues...Nice to see someone raising awareness about issues. Domestic violence is a real issue even in modern Indian families thought the manifestation is a more subtle than beating.<BR/><BR/>The attached campaign video is good too.Soul Searcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12332722802993607254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-85720542226368685742009-01-25T14:30:00.000+05:302009-01-25T14:30:00.000+05:30Hi Raji :)One more thought came to my mind regardi...Hi Raji :)<BR/><BR/>One more thought came to my mind regarding eliminating domestic violence. <BR/><BR/>ALL COUPLES BEFORE GETTING MARRIED SHOULD BE ASKED TO UNDERGO ONE WEEK'S COURSE IN AVOIDING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND PRODUCE A CERTIFICATE.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes :)Joseph Pulikotilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07074346261093541776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-47153098479067225192009-01-24T20:05:00.000+05:302009-01-24T20:05:00.000+05:30I was reading Joseph's comment...I doubt teaching ...I was reading Joseph's comment...<BR/><BR/>I doubt teaching of mutual respect and values will be effective if taken at academic level..<BR/><BR/>Charity begins at home, they say...<BR/><BR/>Tolerance, perseverence...at home can lead children to understand the values in a family system :)<BR/><BR/>The other evil -- drinking etc..contribute...But its all individual choices...<BR/><BR/>wishes, <BR/>devikaDevika Jyothihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349153846127145464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-48649153109256543632009-01-24T20:01:00.000+05:302009-01-24T20:01:00.000+05:30Domestic violence is a real and sad truth..Advance...Domestic violence is a real and sad truth..<BR/><BR/>Advanced countries has comprehensive legislation for domestic ciolence..But does that stop it??<BR/><BR/>In India, I know it happening among the most educated of couples...<BR/><BR/>On a lighter note , in my house, I am the violent one often...Just for fun...to avoid monotony. And he likes it :)<BR/><BR/>But I have to follow his strict orders...and I do it obligingly...so he is seldom violent :)<BR/><BR/>Wishes, <BR/>devikaDevika Jyothihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349153846127145464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-11705678303922597502009-01-24T16:29:00.000+05:302009-01-24T16:29:00.000+05:30Hi Raji :)This is a very burning issue not only in...Hi Raji :)<BR/><BR/>This is a very burning issue not only in India but all over the world.<BR/><BR/>It is important to educate both men and women on this evil called domestic violence.<BR/><BR/>I think illiteracy, excessive drinking, dowry etc. are contributing factors for domestic violence.<BR/><BR/>Unless widespread,vigorous campaign on the lines of AIDS awareness is undertaken, domestic violence will not be eradicated. <BR/><BR/>We have to introduce this subject in the school level and children should be taught about this evil.<BR/><BR/>I hope some concerted efforts will be made in this direction.<BR/><BR/>Many thanks for this very significant and burning issue which should be stamped out for our society.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes :)Joseph Pulikotilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07074346261093541776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-29574470711595227022009-01-23T21:32:00.000+05:302009-01-23T21:32:00.000+05:30I would hate to think what would happen to any man...I would hate to think what would happen to any man that would have the misfortune to lay a hand on myself or my daughter. I would also "ring that bell" if I suspected this was going on with any friend or neighbor. Honest, powerful post, Raji. How wonderful to visit you again. :)SandraReehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16305161476021509074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-13539551294675407982009-01-23T10:00:00.000+05:302009-01-23T10:00:00.000+05:30Excellent post, Raji! I love this series of ads. T...Excellent post, Raji! I love this series of ads. The others in this series are equally powerful. I hope it helps in some way at least. As a society we have increasingly become used to turning the deaf ear and not wished to become involved in any way.Sunita Mohan https://www.blogger.com/profile/16395671437601246093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-67494963899669019352009-01-23T09:01:00.000+05:302009-01-23T09:01:00.000+05:30Its a great campaign - have seen it while watching...Its a great campaign - have seen it while watching some cricket match.flowergirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13583733876810341137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-32325390286345668382009-01-22T12:40:00.000+05:302009-01-22T12:40:00.000+05:30That message is powerful, and I feel it has become...That message is powerful, and I feel it has become such a routine stuff in Indian lives that most of us are (make ourselves?) insensitive when it comes to a neighbouhood happening.<BR/>I think there must be instances of the sons taking over from fathers...Swarnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01623334723468773313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7108332737182280632.post-54092317267627362742009-01-22T09:25:00.000+05:302009-01-22T09:25:00.000+05:30Said true, ma'am. It's a shame for me that almost ...Said true, ma'am. It's a shame for me that almost a majority of men are like that. I've always included this awareness during our casual conversations as to how a responsible husband should be and I hope they really did make an impact on them and they don't make a negative headlines in future. One such similar movie that I insist that all men watch is PROVOKED - the story about the abused woman in UK.Chandramouli Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06532146969497878220noreply@blogger.com